I am in love with a woman I’ve been dating for a month. How do I make her fall in love with me? I am 24 yrs old and she's older, but I don't know how old. I invited her for lunch but she didn't show. I also invited her last Sunday and again she didn't show up. I tried her cell phone but she was not picking up. I was a bit down because we arranged to meet and she didn't show up. How do I make her understand I'm in love with her? Please help me. Derrick
It’s very hard to convince someone of something that isn’t true. The truth is that you are not in love with her. I know it, she knows it and maybe somewhere inside you, you know it. You make be infatuated and obsessed, but you certainly can’t love someone after only one month. Love develops as a result of getting to know someone. You don’t even know how old she is!
Although it’s not right for her to stand you up, the reason she’s doing it is because you’re creeping her out. She’s doesn’t want to turn you down, so she pretends she’s going to see you and then doesn’t show up. Even if you haven’t said, “I love you” to her, your actions and attitude are showing her that you are way too into her after only one month. You’re coming across as desperate and unrealistic and that is never attractive. We all want to be with someone strong. Someone who is willing to put up with being continually stood up is not strong. Are you sure you’re even dating?
If there is to be any hope for you, you need to back off immediately. Don’t call her for a week. When you do call, don’t ask her out. Have a short, pleasant conversation and get off the phone. You can ask her out the next time you talk. If she doesn’t show up again, she’s not interested or she’s lost interest in you as a result of your actions. At that point, all you can do is learn from your mistakes and move on.