I am 24 years old and I am in love with a woman who is 42. The thing is, she’s my aunt. We have a very close friendship and I have fallen in love with her. I don’t think she knows that. I am afraid to tell her how I feel. I can be myself when I am with her and she is so grown up.
I see her every weekend. I make her a special dinner and we watch a movie. She phones me sometimes during the week and says things like, “I can’t wait for this weekend.” or “Are you coming this weekend? I miss you.”
I really want to take this relationship further. I have my own place but I can just as well move in with her. Must I stop seeing her? Is this all wrong because she’s my aunt? J.
I can certainly understand the allure of a beautiful, older woman, especially one who you can be yourself with. However, you obviously know this is totally wrong, or you wouldn’t have written to me.
You may think you’re in love with her, but it’s infatuation. I can understand how you becoming infatuated with her, but she should know better. Of course she knows you’re interested! I’m sure she finds it flattering to have a young man so taken with her, but she is using bad judgment.
Do not move forward with this situation. You cannot move in with her and you cannot have sex with her. I know it’s going to be difficult, but nothing good can come of this situation. If the family found out, at the very least, they would be very disappointed and upset.
If you prefer older women, then please find another one. This one is off limits!