Thursday, April 17, 2014

I'm Attracted to my Aunt!


Hi Lucia,

I am 24 years old and I am in love with a woman who is 42.  The thing is, she’s my aunt.  We have a very close friendship and I have fallen in love with her.  I don’t think she knows that.  I am afraid to tell her how I feel.  I can be myself when I am with her and she is so grown up.

I see her every weekend.  I make her a special dinner and we watch a movie.  She phones me sometimes during the week and says things like, “I can’t wait for this weekend.” or “Are you coming this weekend?  I miss you.”

I really want to take this relationship further.  I have my own place but I can just as well move in with her.  Must I stop seeing her?  Is this all wrong because she’s my aunt?  J.

Read Lucia's answer at The Cougar Club

30 comments:

  1. Wow is this a True Story? yeah cougars are so hot!
    But never go after family!

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    1. How bout if she ain't blood related, what if she's married into your family?

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  2. If your not gonna have kids then wtf cares? Especially without the whole story....are you blood related? Do the other family members pass judgement of the interaction? Personally as long as you wouldnt bring a kid into this world I think it's not ANYONE elses call. Youre not brother/sister or even same age cousins....this is obviously such a rare occurance and the only reason anyone would tell you otherwise is their personal judgement call from THEIR own experience. If it feels right to you then forget about the stigma...your far enough generation wise that you werent raised close enough for it to be weird...personally Im attracted to a older 1st cousin once removed and I would never pursue a true relationship.... but I definitely harbor feelings...it's in you mate and people don't understand those feelings dont go away...youre not hurting anyone...and you cant rely on OTHER peoples judgement who have no knowledge on what youre going through...make youre own decisions.

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  3. I'm twenty-five, and am hopelessly attrackted to my aunt as well, have been since I was in my early teens. My story is very similar to yours. If I'm not mistaken an older women for you just wont cut it. Its not that we're young guys looking for older women, necessarily, but rather we are young men who have developed romantic feelings for a close relatative. As does your's, my aunt, in her own way hints to me through subtle jestures and overtly long hugs that she too wrestles with the same ideas as myself. I picture the two of us walking hand in hand through the mall, this is the relationship Im long to have with. It pains me to say in the very back of my mind I know Lucia is right. What if instead of happiness and satisfaction my aunt and I "hooking up" brings regret and shame? I can't say for sure what I'm going to do wen I see her next, if I will try my hand and go for it. But what I do know is the consequences cannot be foreseen, and that's a huge unknown for such a move.

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  4. i to love my aunt ( blood related) she is the perfect woman for me im 27 she is 30 . and we are a close family we have the same things in common .. but it stops at her being my AUNTY . im sorry to say . i would however take her if she wanted to . but i would never put the moves on her out of respect . its a rusty line . depends on family ties . and my family would be devastated

    bobby england x

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  5. yeah i know exactly how you feel... my auntie just drives me crazy, whenever i see her i just don't stop having these sexual feelings and desires, i'm not sure what to do but i can't stop thinking of her

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  6. im 28 my arnty is 60 she has allways been thear for me and i can not stop craving for her i lover her so much shes single i relly been thinking about just hugging her holding her felling and kissing her to see whot happens dam i wont my arnty

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  7. I'm a 20year old male and for the last few years have developed strong feelings for my 43year old aunt ( dads sister , blood related ) I was always to worried about expressing my true feelings so kept it a fantasy , I don't only fantasise about just having sex with my aunt I'm actually in love with her , I want to wake up next to her every morning , we have snogged one time at a family party after we both had a few drinks but quickly pulled away as we realised people might see. I have come to accept that I will have to just keep it a fantasy but that come stop us dreaming right??

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  8. Just go for it n c wat happens

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  9. You guys all need help.

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  10. yes i want help. how to dating with u.

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  11. yes guys same here as i am also been attracted by my aunt... she is 36 n i'm 28...at first she got an idea that i've naughty thoughts about her and after some times...i made a move i caress her body and hug her alot...but we both know we can't have sex... but we enjoy it... and now i have decided to move on and should not cross my limits

    finally... i want to quit it .... does any one know "What should I Do " as i've stopped visiting her... still i think about her and can't help my self to not to fantasize her....

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    1. Fantasize all you want, just don't follow through!

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    2. Nothing wrong with following through, they're both consenting adults who want each other they don't have to stop themselves and be miserable based on what other people think. The only reason there's a stigma around it is because our small minded society isn't used to the idea and people are conditioned to be opposed to it, no different than how many have such judgemental views about courgars.

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    3. Family is off-limits. A society without boundaries would be chaotic and out of control.

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    4. When it comes to consenting adults nothing is off limits, there's no need for boundaries if both parties are okay with it. Society won't become "chaotic and out of control" just because of what two people do behind closed doors, we're not talking about murder it doesn't affect anyone but the two of them. That's the same argument used against gays, what individuals do in private sexually is no one else's business.

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  12. Ppl !!!! thanks for your concern... plz stop arguing I know I'm wrong as its off limits.... Lucia is right I must not do this...

    I cannot stop myself whenever I see her... my beast is unleashed and wants to make love... I cannot resist it but my aunt is the one never says to stop touching her body (stop tingling, hugging & caressing her)... but when I touch her boobs she gets some space but still she allows me to touch her back, waist and bums... sometimes it is about to get intense she the one gets away by making excuses.. goes away or gets herself busy in something... that's why I have never kissed her or .......


    so plz someone should guide me ????
    I need help??? how should I stop my beast within me???


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  13. Im 30 and for as long as i can remember I've been sexually attracted to my aunt (mom's sister) we have a small business now and since her husband passed away couple of yrars ago she started working with us and that's been driving me crazy i just can't look at her and not fantasize i know this is wrong and i know i should not be writing here. I have a pretty active sex life but there's something about this woman that drives me nuts she's like the forbidden fruit. Need help or input on this matter please fml!!!

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  14. Greetings everybody,
    I am a 21 years old, for the past six years I lived with my aunt moms sister. And this women us so beautiful in my eyes just sitting next to her makes me feel like a complete man. I feel like I can do anything in the world when im around her. Therefore I always use to massage her and take good care of her.to moreover I can get many women and ive dated lots, but never felt the warmth and care of these women. When im with my aunt I I forget the whole world and all whos in it, I love her so much its killing me. I cried over her alot. Therefore ive recently moved away from her last year and after moving I never felt the person I once was im living in missary without her. Shes 39 and im 21.

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  15. I want to have sex with my aunt.But there is a problem that i don't know that whether she wants to do sex with me or not. How can i be sure that she likes me and wanna get laid with me?? I am also scared that she will tell it to my parents.

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  16. anonymous

    all i can say to you do not do it is so wrong,i have been in that kind of relationship and now as i speak it backfired.i am waiting for the whole family to come and talk with us.i might not have place to stay at the end of this day,bra just forget about it

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  17. Im 26 yrs. old a lesbian, I have a crush on my Aunt who is 53... however we rarely be together or see each other... We are in a long distance familial relationship. Im living in Asia, she lives in USA, though we're both Asians... Right now we're together until for 2 weeks... Then she will go back to USA again...

    I have a crush on her, I coudnt admit or tell her as it will ruin our family relationship... I love her as my aunt & I miss her too... Anyway when she go back at U.S, I will get through & move on again, as there's many girls I will meet in the future, somebody who is not blood related...

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  18. Just take her if she lets you, no experience will ever match making love to her

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  19. i wanna jus smooch with my aunt but idk how and where to start and advices?

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  20. I am a 19 year old guy and I am very sexually attracted to my 26 year old aunt. How should I talk to her about my feelings?

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  21. I've been having a relationship with my aunt (dad's sister) for the past 8 months. We are the same age, 30. We clicked since the first time we ever met and never knew about her till last year at Christmas . Was my dad's first time seeing her too. We talked ever since and all changed. We started liking the way we are. We have so much in common, and both are attractive.She visits me at my house every few months and have the time of our lives (wild sex included). We have reached a point were we actually want to be together. Her husband treats her like shit and he cheats on her constantly. She said she rather be with the man of her dreams which is me.. It's driving me crazy and I don't even look at other women cause all I could think about is her. I really would hate to hurt my parents and I could care less about my other aunts uncle's and cousins. I also want to be happy and that is being with her. I don't feel comfortable when I go out now if she is not around. I am so used to being with her, but I know it will mean alot of problems. Also, I don't want to live a life were I would regret letting her go, cause then I would be devastated seeing her with someone else.

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    1. I've responded to your question in an mp3. Please email me so I can send it to you.

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  22. Its good to see this. at least I know I'm not crazy now.I am in love with my (blood) aunt too. Other People just don't understand what this is like.I don't think these feelings are going anywhere. Its terrible I sleep with women that Im not in love with and it feels more wrong being with them however I never hooked up with my aunt but It couldn't possibly be more wrong to be with my aunt the love of my life. I dont know what to do either!? it kills me inside to not have her and it feels like I'm cheating on her with other women because of the the way I feel about her. I'm 23yrs old she is 41yrs old.

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  23. I’m drawn to my wife’s Aunt as well. It just happens. We have both confessed to wanting to have sex but we have also agreed never to let it happen. For now we just text and flirt. Would love to see our boundaries pushed to see how far we could go without having sex , but I’m. Not sure I / we could control ourselves. The struggle is real

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