Is She a Cougar?

Hi Lucia,

I'm 23 years and there is a 40ish, extremely hot lady at the gym who dresses to kill and seduce.  She does wear a ring or should I say more than one.  How can I find out if she is a Cougar?  Sean

Hi Sean,

The fact that she dresses to "kill and seduce" as you say (although, shouldn't it be the other way around), could mean one of two things:  1)  She is indeed a Cougar who is on the prowl and wants to attract as much attention as possible or 2) She's in a relationship or married and not getting enough attention, so she uses her clothes to make her feel wanted and attractive, but she has no intentions of going any further.

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I'm Obsessed With My Cub!

Hi Lucia,

I've been dating a cub 20 years younger than me for about six months. I allow myself to become obsessed with what he's doing when I'm not with him. I hate not feeling in control.  How can I stop obsessing and get back in the driver's seat of this relationship?  Claire

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My Cougar Doesn't Want to Marry Me!

Hi Lucia,

I'm 20 and my partner is 34.   Recently she said she wants to get married at some point.   She is always evasive or changes the subject when I bring up specifically her marrying me, as opposed to just generally wanting to get married. This makes me think that she is just having fun with me and doesn't plan to actually marry me at some future time. 

She has said that she won't like me a bit more for trying to act older but I'm worried she needs someone who's not a kid to her and will ultimately go for someone more her peer. 

Am I just imagining it?  Ryan

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Cougar or Sugar Mama?

                                                                             

Hi Lucia,

What is the difference between a Cougar and a Sugar Mama?  Blake

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