I am 36 and didn't have a boyfriend until I was 25. I’ve only had one previous 11 year relationship but it was with a married man who was older.
I have a nephew in college who plays basketball. I am finding myself attracted to some of his teammates. I was intimate with one of them but afterwards he didn’t respond to my texts or calls. I know he is still in the stage where he is curious about life and still enjoys playing around. He might also be afraid because of our age difference and what people will say if they see us.
I think I'm starting to fall for him. I feel lost. I just want to talk or text him as much as I can. I still want him even though he might just want to play. I want to spend more intimate moments with him. I always want to feel the happiness the feeling of being in love brings.
What should I do? I want to be irresistible to him. I might be stupidly in love. Am I over reacting, and expecting too much from him? Jenny
What you are experiencing is called “limerence”. It’s a state of intense romantic desire for another person. It’s an obsessional form of romantic love. It’s characterized by intrusive thinking and excessive sensitivity to external events that reflect the disposition of the “limerent object” towards the individual.
You don’t have a lot of experience with dating, so it’s easy to understand how you may think you are in love. It doesn’t sound as if he’s interested in you. It doesn’t really matter if it’s because of his age or the age difference.
The best way to get over him is to start dating. You have a lot of catching up to do. Don’t get stuck on anyone who is not as interested in you as you are in him.