Is She a Cougar?

Hi Lucia,

I'm 23 years and there is a 40ish, extremely hot lady at the gym who dresses to kill and seduce.  She does wear a ring or should I say more than one.  How can I find out if she is a Cougar?  Sean

Hi Sean,

The fact that she dresses to "kill and seduce" as you say (although, shouldn't it be the other way around), could mean one of two things:  1)  She is indeed a Cougar who is on the prowl and wants to attract as much attention as possible or 2) She's in a relationship or married and not getting enough attention, so she uses her clothes to make her feel wanted and attractive, but she has no intentions of going any further.

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Is This Cougar Interested?

                                                                            

Hi Lucia,

I'm 21 years old and recently I thought I was being hit on by an older woman. We talked for a while and she seemed to really enjoy our conversation. She was the one who initiated the conversation, and after a while I assumed she was interested in me. I did get the old "That is so funny!" while she reached out and touched my arm.

A friend of hers came over and made a comment about her talking to me, and she ended up saying something to the effect of "Are you kidding me? No way! He’s a baby!!"  I’m 21 and was absolutely puzzled.

I have no idea how to read an older woman and now my likeliness to approach one has gone WAY down. Is there any way to not embarrass myself in the future? How does a male tell if an older woman is interested without the "I’m old enough to be your mother." answer?  Evan Hall

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