Is It Wrong To Have Sex With a Cougar?

 

Hey Lucia,

My friends think I’m crazy because I’m 21 years old and I’ve been having GREAT sex with a 52 year old divorced woman.  We both know it’s just for sex.  Is this wrong?  Joe

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Disappearing Cubs?

Hi Lucia,

I seem to have the same pattern.  I meet younger guys (under 25) who seem very interested when we go out.  They do and say the right things.   I don’t sleep around and usually wait 2 months.  However, suddenly they’re gone - no calls or texts.   I might text once to say hello but I don't chase guys or blow up their phones. This is nothing new and has been happening for years. Why does this keep happening to me?   Scarlett Marie

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Bootycall Cougar?

Hi Lucia,

There is this guy who is 26 yrs old and we are attracted to each other. I’m 41. He comes into the salon I work at.  I saw him out one night and we ended up drinking and sleeping together.

One night he called me to have drinks but it was brief.   The other night he called to see what I was doing. He was kind of buzzed. He came over and we messed around but didn’t sleep together. He kept telling me he wants to take me out on a real date but he is really busy with work He said he would get a hotel for my birthday and we would go out for dinner.

I don’t know what to believe anymore. I was wondering what I should do about this? I do like younger guys and would like to date them, but it seems all they want is sex. How should I be acting towards this guy?

I think I know what you’re going to tell me - I just need to hear it!  Rene

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How to Catch a Cougar

The key to success with Cougars is to know what they're looking for in a younger man, also known as a "Cub".

 I'd like to give you this powerful information so you can enjoy the kind of success with Cougars that most Cubs can only dream of!

Would you like to be with a sexy Cougar like the one in this photo?  She's actually single and available, but why would she choose you?

What if I were to tell you that Cougars aren't that difficult to figure out, once you have the inside scoop on what they're looking for?

And what if I were to tell you that once you find out what makes Cougars tick, you'll practically be able to get any Cougar you want!
And what if I also told you that whether you're simply looking for a hot, steamy encounter or a long term, committed relationship, I could teach you what you need to know in order to be successful with older women?
Sound good so far?

According to a 2009 survey, 45% of Cougars have dated at least 5 younger men and 48% prefer guys 24-29 years old.

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What does this mean for you?  

It means that almost half the Cougars you meet not only have years of experience dating men their own age or older, they're also quite savvy with younger men.
If you happen to fall outside the "ideal" age range and/or you've never dated a Cougar before, it's going to be a lot harder to "close the deal".
If you're looking for a casual, no string attached encounter, you'll be happy to know at least 39% of Cougars are also looking for the same thing.
If you're looking for a relationship, that leaves 61% of Cougars who are looking for you.

For more information, go to:  How to Catch a Cougar

Response: Is It Wrong to Have Sex With a Cougar?

Dear Lucia,

Recently you told a 21 year old man who was having great sex with a 52 year old woman to “do his thing.”  If this were a 52 year old man having "great sex" with a 21 year old girl, would you be as encouraging to "do your thing", or would you castigate the man for being a disgusting old man taking advantage of a girl with severe daddy issues, young enough to be his daughter ?  Be honest.  Peter

Dear Peter,

Older men have been having sex with much younger women for ages.  If a 21 year old girl wants to have sex with a 52 year old man, that's her business, and it's not necessarily because she has "Daddy issues."